As the depressing cliché goes: Nothing things last forever—which is why friendship breakups sometimes happen.
A large majority of dreams that people ask about here have to do with old friends they no longer talk to.
Many cases these past relationships usually end abruptly, typically in some sort of fight or disagreement. The unfortunate part is that these raw feelings and emotions linger in the back of our minds and need to be addressed.
Why You Dream about People You Don’t Talk to Anymore?
Like most dreams they have the ability to search and find these repressed feelings or unconscious emotions and put them in front of your face because this is the only way for you to see it.
Dreaming of an old friend you no longer speak to has more to do with you than them. In fact, this so called “old friend” may emerge in order for you to heal and understand the past in order to move on. Sometimes we even dream of them in positive ways as a sign that we are now in the healing process.
How to understand your dream with your ex-friend
Friendship breakups can sometimes feel even more complicated than romantic ones. The most significant thing we need to do, is normalize the fact that sometimes friendships do end and that can actually be healthy.
Even though the loss of a friendship feels like a personal failing when it happens, it is not something we should be ashamed of.
The next step would be to recognize who ended the relationship first. Is this something you wanted to do or they ended it on their terms. The difference between the two involves feelings of being rejected, or if you ended it, perhaps feelings of guilt.
Alternatively, someone who may want to rekindle their past friendship may also experience these sorts of dreams. Maybe someone from your past is about to resurface in your daily life.
Reasons you’re dreaming of people you don’t talk to anymore
- Have you given enough time to grieve and you are still hurt
- Did you get closure as yet or still confused on why you are no longer friends?
- An inability to identify with what you need to move on
- Feelings of abandonment in your dream that need resolution
- You still miss them
- Still angry at them for what they did to you
- Shame or embarrassment about a lost relationship
Is this a sign for you to connect back with this friend?
You might have woken up from this dream feeling confused. When these old friends pop up out of nowhere, they tend to stir up our emotions. Depending the theme of your dream you can wake up feeling happy, reconnected, angry, sad or rejuvenated.
Since these dreams have more to do with you resolving your own personal emotions related to the past relationship, think about what you need to learn from it. Sometimes these dreams encourage the dreamer to reach out in order to get closure, even if it’s not for them, but for you to move on.
When our old friends apologize to us in our dreams it represents your ability to reason and understand their situation.
Dreaming about friends with someone you dislike?
One of the major reasons why you are dreaming of someone you dislike tends to be a projection. A defense mechanism known in psychology in which individuals attribute characteristics they find unacceptable in themselves to another person.
For example, a husband who has an anger problem might tell his wife that she has one, when in fact he has these issues that he is unable to recognize.
So by dreaming of someone you dislike encourages the dreamer to find similar attributes that you both share, even if though you might not want to. Try and examine what characteristics or actions you dislike about yourself and see if they match the person in your dream.
Romantic dream of someone you don’t like?
Any sort of sensual connection you have with people you do not like is considered a positive omen of inner healing.
Metaphorically speaking, the merging of these two energies represents a unification of opposites coming together as a symbol of forgiveness and understanding of his ways.
Consider whether you dream that you’re kissing them, or notice their tongue in your dream. These are both positive symbols related to communication. You may simply be communicating with your own subconscious desires.
Are you dreaming of someone you miss?
Dreaming about people we miss is extremely common because these feelings and emotions that we have trouble expressing in our waking life pops up in our dreams.
These are positive symbol despite waking up feeling sad as you are trying to heal and understand this distance between the two.
An interesting phenomenon is the possibility that you shared the dream with the person you no longer speak to. If the two of you really missed each other, this strong feeling may activate an old connection and you could have the same dream. If this happens, you may each feel like talking again in waking life.
Dreams of family members you don’t talk to
Usually when we dream of family members we do not talk to, we are trying to understand or resolve the past in our minds.
Perhaps communication isn’t your family’s strong suit and these dreams seem to appear out of the blue. If your family is prone to yelling, you may see them show up and start yelling in your dream. This makes it harder to reach out as emotions tend to be stronger and the history goes back since you were born.
The main goal of your dream would be for you to heal and move on, however this might not be as easy as it seems. These dreams encourage us to accept our past, forgive and remove our grievances. As they say blood is thicker than water.
A final consideration is whether you stopped talking due to a family member passing away. Even if that’s the case, you might still dream about them. If you’re dreaming about talking to someone who died, you are trying to understand what you should have learned from them when they were still with you.