Understanding the meaning of our dreams can be quite a challenging task, even for the experienced dreamer. The moment we fall into deep sleep we arrive at the doors of the dream world, you have no choice but to enter. In this vast unknown territory we experience a series of vivid thoughts, images, and sensations that can be both pleasant or chilling.
Dreams are often difficult to comprehend because this is a forgotten language that expresses itself through the use of symbols or metaphors. The unconscious speaks to us by conveying abstract images that might be unknown or unfamiliar to you. Dream symbols are comprised of hidden emotions, urges, and past experiences that have been either been repressed or forgotten about.
Most often we are most effected by our past childhood trauma that essentially stunts our development to becoming a fully integrated adult. These traumas can vary anywhere from your parents divorcing, enduring phyical or mental abuse, financial stress; or emotional neglect. Sometimes it can be as simple as having your favorite childhood toy being thrown in the trash.
Inner Child Dreams
The child in you is the one that still grips onto all those beliefs and coping mechanisms you learned as a kid — parts of you that went along because an adult told you “maybe science wasn’t for you” or it could be aspects of you that learned to hide emotions like guilt or sadness. You can also be the child that craves the love from your parents that was never given to you. The child wants nothing more than to be noticed and sometimes you can find him or her in your dreams.
Once these memories become repressed they never fully go away, in fact they dwell in the dark corners of your unconsciousness wanting to be noticed. These ignored feelings may manifest in other areas in your life such as nightmares, fears, anxieties, depression, insecurities and self sabotaging life patterns. The painful experience has stunted or froze the development of the child within, as you get older he or she stay the same age. Most adults are unaware of this.
Finding The Inner Child
The main purpose of inner child work is to reconnect with the lost or fragmented parts of ourselves that have been forgotten. Unfortunately this is not such an easy task as the child hides in your current neurotic behaviors, idiosyncrasies and dreams.
On top of that we also live in a fast pace society that barley gives us any time for personal reflection. There is a child is inside all of us that is yearning to be noticed and eventually rescued by you.
You may encounter adults in your life that are physically “grown up” on the surface, though inside they are emotionally and psychologically damaged. In essence they are what you would call a ‘wise child‘ or ‘peter pan syndrome‘- the inability to grow up or to engage in behaviour usually associated with adulthood. Until the child is noticed within these behaviors will continue to rear its ugly head
Steps To Find Your Inner Child:
- Next, we accept we have an inner child and to take it seriously. We need to consciously connect with that little girl or boy that is inside us: to understand how they feel and what he or she needs from us at the moment. Does it need love, acceptance, protection, guidance or understanding? Often times you can go into a meditative state, by writing a letter, or visualize in a relaxed environment.
- Once you have acknowledge your inner child let them know you are there to help them. Treat it with kindness, love and respect as it needs your assistance.
- Go back to a time when you where hurt or emotionally closed the door to a particular experience. It might help to look at photos of yourself as a child.
- Record your dreams using a dream journal, or by doing shadow work
- Communicate to the child as if you where your older self coming to the recuse. You can engage in active dialogue by saying nurturing things (I love you, I hear you, thank you, I’m sorry, I am here to help).
Dreams: Discovering The Inner Child
Over the years of analyzing peoples dreams I noticed that many people unconsciously dream about their inner child but are unaware of it. The child usually appears to be the same age as you when the trauma occurred in the past, as if time stop at that very moment.
In your dream the child usually will appear unfamiliar to you, though the theme usually revolves around the dreamer protecting, caring, hugging, chasing or in danger.
The dream with the child will also provide you with clues such as locations, emotions, people, water or houses reflects metaphorically. You can also reflect how the child behaves around you. Are you protecting the child in your dream? Is it scared or happy to see you?
I noticed in my own dream work that I went to rescue a 7 year old boy that was drowning in the ocean. I frantically ran out to save the child, jumping in the water I swam towards the child who was going to drowned.
As I reached out to grab the child’s hand and bring him towards me the places where swapped. I was him drowning as he was heading back to the shore as I tried my best not to sink.
I knew from the dream I made contact with the drowning child within. The water would represent my emotional unconscious as the shore was the conscious. I had to risk going out to save myself. I was given an opportunity to become a detective to figure out what caused the child in me to be in need. Once I was able to identify my inner child’s needs he no longer drowns unconsciously. I defeated one of my fears that has been holding me back for decades.
Benefits Of Inner Child Work:
- emotional blocks dissipate
- becoming less vulnerable and less agreeable
- gaining personal power and the ability to set boundaries
- taking better care of your mental and phyical state
- feeling self-compassion and being comfortable in your own skin
- the ability to loosen up and not take life so seriously
- building self-confidence and security
- more life and energy