Breaking Up Dreams

Why we break up in our dreams?

Some of the most unsettling dreams we can ever experience is about breaking up especially if you are in a good relationship. These dream may be on both side of the spectrum — you are breaking up with your partner or you being on the receiving end. Regardless these dreams are extremely vivid and that contains a hidden meaning that you have been overlooking in your relationship.

So could this break-up be some sort of warning dream?  Is there something secretly wrong with your relationship? Could this dream be picking up on what is to come in the future?

Ask the experts when it comes to break up dreams

Dream analysis can be a very helpful tool to make something that was unconscious to the dreamer be made conscious. Some researchers believe dreams prepare you for possible adverse events in real life, which may be considered a health benefit,” says Dr. Butler. “Dreams are related to memory consolidation happening in the brain during sleep. The evidence is weak for whether dreams serve a true higher purpose or if they are just random“.

Basically, according to neurologists your Break Up Dream is utterly meaningless that has more to do with you processing your emotions in the middle of the night. Do you agree with their analysis or should we take this a step further?

Many psychologists & psychiatrists will not only disagree with their fellow colleagues, but they use the dreams symbols to help their patients. According to the Einstein of Psychology, analytical psychologist Carl Gustav Jung said our dreams are very meaningful and regarded them as expressions of deeper unconscious patterns of instinctual meaning and wisdom.

Sigmund Freud was an Austrian neurologist and the founder of psychoanalysis  had a theory that dreams represent our unconscious desires, thoughts, wish fulfillment, and motivations.

What does it mean when you have dreams about breaking up?

Now if we go with the analytical psychologist route breaking up in our dream might have more to do with the dreamer repressed feelings, unconscious desires or perhaps a wishful fulfillment. I guess this is why we often break up with our friends as well in our dreams – a change seems to be taking place within the dreamer and no the other way around.

Article: Is A Break Up A Warning Dream? 

But before we jump the gun we must lay out as many different possibilities for the reason why this break up occurred. Remember no two dreams or relationships are the exact same, so we cannot just give a generic answer to suit all dreamers. Furthermore, if you are the one who breaks up with someone than the meaning takes a totally different turn.

#1. Break up dreams and fearing the worst

If you have ever experienced a break up it can be one of the most devastating things that can every happen to us. Talk about putting your heart in a blender and stirring it up.  One possible reason why had a dream about breaking up would be related to your unconscious fears of being hurt and being alone. I mean lets face it, break ups are horrible.

According to Dr. Smith “Research has shown that regions of the brain that get activated in response to physical pain also get activated in response to a breakup. Whether we’ve broken a bone or gotten dumped, many of the same underlying neurological structures are involved. This translates to the conscious experience of being in pain”

Usually dreams are quiet complex that is often coded in metaphors and symbols, rather break up dreams are quite direct which goes against the dream playbook. Your fears are directly being projected in your dream — your dream is making you acknowledge these repressed feelings that you carry around with you all day.

#2. Changes in the relationship

Whether this is an personal change that you are currently going though or maybe you noticed your partner changing. Sometimes these changes can be for the good and sometimes for the bad — dreams of a break up mimic death and when death occurs in our dreams it has its benefits and disadvantages. When change occurs for the dreamer or others death usually likes to appear. Why? Because the old person that used to be is no longer.

So this is why a change mimics death or a break up because this person that you used to know has separated themselves from you. Something you may have not accepted has moved itself away from you. Break up dreams encourage you to examine the things in your relationship that are not so close with you anymore. Perhaps this is emotional support, love, happiness, fun; maybe something that should be gone for good light fighting, arguments and crying.

#3. Problems in your relationship

To answer the burning question you probably have in your heart: Yes, its is quite possible that your break up dream is implying their are problems in your relationship. It might either be unconsciously picking up on your partner is moving away from you. You may think you’re happy together right now, but some part of yourself recognizes that something’s wrong.

#4. Breaking up is good for you

Breaking up in your dream means that things will be different as in you might have more freedom to do what you want. You’ll have extra time. One silver lining of a relationship ending is the extra time you’ll have, especially on weekends. It’s a great chance to do the stuff you’ve been wanting to do, like getting more active or hanging out with friends. You might in fact have more time for yourself hinting at being more creative and being who you really want to be.

Breaking up in your dream doesn’t necessary have to be such a bad thing, maybe it is you breaking up with yourself; the old you may be projected on your current partner causing the break up.

#5. You want to break up but are too afraid

It is quite possible that your dream is what Freud called a wishful fulfillment dream. Breaking up can be hard even though you are the one that has to do it — if you’re miserable in a relationship, you’re better off not being in a relationship at all. The unconscious mind doesn’t care about your feelings, it hits you right square in the face whether you are prepared for it or not.

Breaking up with people isn’t fun – even if the relationship is well past its expiration date. So let me ask you. Do you really want to break up with this person but too afraid to pull the plug? If this is true its best you do not string the person along any further.

#6. Are you an emotional wreck?

Sometimes our dreams make us fear the worst, but what happens if you are so insecure within that you cannot bare the fact you might be alone for the rest of your life.

If your dream is really staying with you—whether it keeps occurring night after night there might be an underlying psychological cause. Your dream is your friend trying to help you bring this to your attention.  No matter how strong your relationship maybe  feel safer and more stable.

#7. The spiritual meaning of breaking up in your dreams

Oddly enough, we actually break up in our dreams only to get back together again. Sure, this might be a dream about your turbulent relationship or trying to find common group as in most relationships do. But if we take a step back and look at this break up dream from a Jungian perspective, this may actually be related to your own inner energy. Let me explain.

According to Jung, he believed that the psyche (mind) of the dreamer consists of opposite counterparts such as the yin and yang; or what he described as the Anima (male) or Animus (female) of the dreamer. Basically your dream about breaking up represents unifying with your own masculine and feminine energies – by breaking up the old energy changes only to be reclaimed again.

Your dream will use your partner as the person you essentially searching for within you. He or she is a mere fraction of what you are finding within yourself to become complete within – the yin balances the yang, the up must have a down, the left compliments the right.

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17 days ago

In my dream I have broken up with my husband, as he had multiple affairs, which friends knew about, He keeps leaving me and coming back. I lose our house, he then lives in it with his new partner, who has children, sometimes I have the house sometimes its him, but I always get it back. in the next part of the dream, my husband and I have lost our house, we have a new born and a older child around 3years, no where to live end up in a caravan site, in the dream people seem to feel free… Read more »

2 months ago

My husband has passed some 5 years now we was happily married for 49 years so happy but in my dream I turned for a cuddle and he said he didn’t love me anymore and moving away from me. It was so real I was sobbing.

1 year ago

In my dream, my current bf breaks up with me and leaves me for someone I know but he’s never met before. This is the second time I’ve had this dream and he’s left me for two different people. The situation is always the same though, it’s peaceful. I drop him off, we talk in front of my replacement for a while and he tells me it’s temporary and we will be together again. I always wake up crying and unable to breathe.

Reply to  Jas
4 months ago

This describes my dream to a tee. I can’t imagine why this is what has been happening in my dreams but everything is peaceful in my relationship

1 year ago

I was dating my ex and I was completely ignoring him just laying around my house cause I was bored or mad and then he showed up at my house in with my brothers and stood in the drive way talking to my dad where I think he was breaking up with me after that he left and avoided me back when i tried to talk to him then I was in space with multiple of him in different emotions or colors and all looked somehow disappointed and mad at me then I woke up

kelly stephens
kelly stephens
1 year ago

In my dream gaz has been having an affair with Sarah behind my back and everyone knows except me. It’s in Cardiff and he’s visiting me every weekend but instead of seeing me, he is cutting our time and seeing Sarah. He is in love with her and doesn’t love me at all. He has been meeting with her behind her husbands back who doesn’t know either. My friends all take her side and turn against me despite the pain this has caused me. I feel utterly betrayed with no way out. Both of them act very differently to how… Read more »

Reply to  kelly stephens
8 months ago

Thanks for sharing. I have a similar reoccurring dream well not similar or exactly but reoccurring where my high school love is always breaking up with me or mad at me and that was basically the best relationship in my life and the girl I love the most in my life so I always wake up kind of hurt and frustrated and I wonder why I always dream about her and it’s always right a pretty bad dream??!!

Marian Moser
Marian Moser
1 year ago

I’m frustrated. I keep dreaming that my husband and I break up/divorce – sometimes I initiate it – sometimes he does – sometimes I just find myself in a different house with a different man (someone I would NEVER be interested in and a hovel instead of a home). We moved several months ago to a new area – new job/new home. My husband says I’m insecure about the job and my move (which I’m sure is true because I’m the boss now and nervous to do a good job). If that’s true – why is my husband and my… Read more »

1 year ago

I tend to have dreams where my fiancé that I’ve been with for almost ten years breaks up with me or vis versa and I’m super upset about it and am always trying to get back with him in the dream. It’s nice to know that it doesn’t mean I want to break up or something but that it’s either fear or

2 years ago

I found this to be quite insightful and very informative… Especially with the Spiritual explanation. Thank you, your articles are truly amazing and helpful!!!