10 Reasons Why You’re Dreaming About Your Ex
Are you confused on why you are still dreaming of your ex? Well it turns out that dreaming of our ex is more common than you think, in fact it is in the top most common themes we experience and yet leaves baffled in the morning.
The vast majority of ex dreams has nothing to do with them but hidden elements that still remain within you. Basically all of your unconscious feelings, past memories and repressed emotions are tangled up in your mind and is still living in the present moment. The main goal for your dream would be for you to heal and find closure, however this is not as easy as it seems.
Our dreams have a strange tendency to use the image of our ex to bring something to our attention, unfortunately some of these dreams are downright bizarre.
This article will explore the spiritual reasons why you are still having dreams with your ex, find ways to let go, and to stop them from recurring.
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Types Of Ex Dreams
- dreaming about your ex’s family
- ex husband’s new wife
- your ex is moving on
- dreaming of your ex dying
- dating other people including your family
- ex dumping, ignoring or rejecting you
- saving you, saying he is sorry or even shooting you
- coming back to you or in a romantic relationship
#1. You are still not over them
Usually right after a breakup, it is normal to have feelings for an ex. These shared fun memories, many intimate moments and experiences just doesn’t disappear overnight. Since they are part of our past, whether you like it or not, they have still left an imprint on our minds and shaped us to who we are today. These unresolved emotions such as anger, confusion, hate, and love have a tendency to make its appearance in our dreams – often masked in various forms.
#2. Technically, your ex is dead!
The fact of the matter the reason why breakups are so difficult because they mimic death of something that was once important to you. Even though they are still alive somewhere, the final abrupt ending can mirror hearing about a sudden death of a loved one. Like most painful or negative feelings are actively push aside because they overwhelm you, but only to find out they come out in our dreams.
This is why many people Dream Of Their Ex Dying so often in their dreams because you will no longer see this person again. Alternatively, when your ex dies in your dream it might imply you have now mentality moved on.
Article: Benefits Of Death & Dying In Dreams
#3. Dreaming of being romantically Involved With Your Ex
Before we jump into the meaning you will want to figure out if you still want your ex back in your life. If the answer is no, than dreaming of being romantically involved with your ex contains more unconscious elements instead of anything phyical. The dream might use your past experiences to inform you that you may need some affection, love, repression or a lack of passion in your life. Alternatively, dreaming of making love with your ex might reflect a new relationship in our life that reflects similarly.
#4. Ex dreams and looking for closure
Getting closure after a break up will almost inevitably take longer than expected, in fact these troublesome emotions manifest in our dreams. Oftentime when we are Ignored By Your Ex in Your Dreams it represents your own mental fog from that past that is not allowing you to move forward.
Article: How To Understand Being Ignored In Your Dreams
- Take full responsibility for yourself. It’s ultimately up to you to take the necessary actions to help move you forward. …
- Grieve the loss. Give yourself permission to feel sad.
- Forgive your ex. Focus on the positives.
- Make a plan for the immediate future.
- Create a ritual.
- Accept that you may never get an apology from your ex.
#5. You keep falling for the wrong guy
Are you still in search for the same type of partner you had in your past? A new study at the University of Toronto finds that people usually find a particular type of partner and usually gravitate toward this type, no matter the circumstances.
Your ex could be only appearing in your dream to inform you of the same patterns in your life and expecting different results.
How To Break the Mold, Build New Patterns
Realistically speaking the only way to change our own habits and behaviors is to start a new one. If you’ve ever tried to give up a bad habit in the past or learn a new skill, then you already know how hard it is to follow a new path.
- identify the problem patterns
- pay attention to your action and not words
- write down what type of partner you want
- build your confidence
Tip: According to Carl Jung, Swiss psychologist and psychiatrist who founded analytic psychology this so called man you keep meeting could be connected to your anima; the masculine within the feminine that you are insearch for to become complete. This unconscious yearning connects back to the relationship you had with your father.
Article: Understanding you animus though your ex
#6. Are you dreaming of your ex’s family?
Dreaming of your ex family represents reflecting on past memories, similar parallels that you see with your new partners family, wondering what your life would be like if you were still together, or maybe you just miss them. Depending on your relationship with the family and the context of the dream will alter the meaning, however as humans we naturally seek a family of our own and this dream might be reflecting it.
#7. Dreaming of my ex new partner
It is quite common to Dream Of Your Ex new girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife because they are merely a reflection of you. Humans tend to attract similar characteristics in the same partners so dreaming of your ex new wife or husband represents the traits and behaviors that are unconscious within you.
Maybe we are thinking too deep into this matter. Maybe you are dreaming of your ex new partner because you might be curious what they are up to, or maybe you see yourself in their shoes.
#8. It’s a symbol of a bigger problem
Dreams have a tendency to pull out hidden feelings of insecurity, fears of abandonment and low confidence by your ex being a total jerk in your dream. Experiencing dreams of your ex either dumping, ignoring, trying to kill you or even shooting you are negative themes that encourages you to build your confidence and know yourself worth.
Your exs aggression or general mean disposition tells you that this issue belongs to you and not him. You might have felt so hurt from the past that you are unable to express your feelings towards the situation. Usually when our exs attack us with a gun or trying to hurt us it becomes a direct attack on our mind, body and soul.
- Accept your emotions
- Never confuse memory with facts
- Positive thinking
- Think positive to overcome your negativity bias
- Raise your curiosity levels
- Overcome self-doubt and stop negative thinking patterns
- Accept your past for what it is and move on
9. You’re afraid someone else will break your heart again
Oddly enough we tend to dream more about our ex when we are starting a new relationship because of our past fears. Emotionally investing in someone requires faith, trust and confidence since nobody likes have their hearts broken a second time. Our ex will show up in our dream to protect you against your past hurt so it doesn’t happen again.
10. You are trying to forgive them?
By forgiving your ex you are technically forgiving yourself. We often dream of our ex for our own peace of mind so we can move on; dreaming of our ex moving on is a very positive symbol that represents you moving on and not them. If you ex emerges in your dreams to tell you sorry it is another positive symbol of acceptance in your life. What was once unconscious within is now out of the bag for you to move on.
Bonus: Spiritual Meaning Of Ex In our Dreams
I noticed many people online are searching for the spiritual meaning of dreaming of your ex. Dreams are the psyche’s attempt to communicate important things to the individual that give us an opportunity to find out what is really going on behind the scenes.
Whether you like it our not our exs came into our lives to teach us a lesson about life and ourselves. We do ourselves an injustice when we are unable to move on or grow from this experience. Your dream will metaphorically code your ex around particular locations, settings and moods as clues to become aware of the root cause.
Despite how vivid, exciting or nightmarish our ex appears in our dreams they contain a very valuable message that can only be understood by the dreamer with a little introspection. Our exs in dreams are a manifestation of our old selves living in the present moment. Are you the same person as you were years ago?
I have dreams of people that have died all the time but for the last 3 years I’ve had dreams of my fiance that past away from cancer 3 years ago. The last couple of dreams I had I was trying to get her back from breaking up with me or we had fought. It’s not really clear. The part that was was that I missed her and she told me she cheated on me. The first one she told me she was with someone else. I wake up and can’t get it out of my head and I can’t… Read more »
I had a dream that I had a threesome with an ex dating partner, and a family friend that I once grew up with. What’s puzzling, is that I don’t remember why I stopped dating the ex, nor do I recall either of us being heartbroken, and I haven’t been close to the childhood friend, since grade school.
I had a dream I spent a day with my ex. Wasn’t the most romantic dream, we just hung out and did normal things for a day. Toward the end of the day I left to go get snacks from a convenience store. When I got back I was greeted by a giant spider blocking the front entrance to her home. I remember feeling like it was angry with me and like it was going to pounce on me if I took one more step closer. Then I woke up.
My ex has passed and I had a dream she called me on the phone and asked me to come get her she said it’s hot in here I asked where she was she replied in my city then I woke up
Why does every man in my dreams look like my ex husband? I know it’s a different person but they have the same face as my ex??
I dreamed my ex and I were back together, and when we were having lunch we started kissing. I remarked that his hand seemed cold, and when he turned his face toward me it was very thin and his eyes were turned back in his head like in “Children of the Corn.” Then I woke up.
My ex died almost three years ago (we’d been broken up for years and married other people).
I keep having dreams where my one specific ex keeps trying to get my attention but I either shut them down or I agree grudgingly. Even during a time when we didn’t date but we stopped being friends I had a dream I yelled “I don’t need you anymore” at them
Why am I keeping dreaming about my ex?
I had a dream of my dead ex. He is my daughter’s father we were never married but together for 10 years. We had a very rocky relationship and in the end I asked him to leave. A year later he died. It’s now been 11 years since he passed and I dreamt of him just popping back up into our lives like he never left like he was away on vacation or something.
In the dream I was annoyed that he thought he can just come back like nothing happened.
Had a dream that me and my ex husband were just hanging out with his friends . Then we took the train somewhere nd once we got to the location my dream ended . Nothing weird nothing romantic . No emotions involved . It’s strange because we actually barley get along and only speak about our mutual child together . Why is he popping up in my dream ? We separated years ago & I’m currently pregnant with my current partner .
My ex was my first love who I dated for 3 years in high school and college, living together for college. We broke up and it it tore me up inside. We started to get back together again when I decided to date my best friend from high school (who I had a crush on) came back to town after being away at college. My ex was always jealous of my best friend so he stopped talking to me. I haven’t seen or talked to him in over 25 years. I’ve been married to my best friend for 28 years… Read more »
I had a dream I was at a party and my ex was there ..he was nice at first.And then two lil young girls like 18 came to the party .He and his friend disappeared and I walked down the street and caught all of them having sex in the same bed ..I blew up and got mad and when they came out the room ,he screamed at me and said he didn’t care and the girls walked out all sweaty and I was like do your parents know your sleeping with a 42 year old man and they said… Read more »
I had a dream of my ex boyfriend and I got back together now I don’t ever dream and it’s been almost a year since we’ve been together. I dreamt that we got back together and was going to get married. It seemed very odd for me to have that dream. I’m in a new relationship now on and off for a year now to. Can someone shine some light on what this could mean please.
I dream that an old flame still loves me, and if I go visit where he works or did when I was around he always arranges to take me out. In one dream I drempt we got married. I would like to go out with him again.
I had a dream that I ran into my ex at a place we used to frequent when we met. He was happy and found out he had a son he didn’t know about. (He never had kids). I had told him I was happy for him and congratulated him. What is strange is we ended on extremely bad terms and we cannot stand each other. This dream has bothered me for days, which lead me here.
Hello. I’ve been haunted recently with vivid dreams of my ex-boyfriend chasing and trying to murder me. We broke up in 2020. He was never physically abusive but he was manipulative and insecure. He was constantly upset about other men being around me, looking at me, flirting with me, etc even though I’d never cheated or had the desire to. In the dreams, I’m usually with family/friends and they’re either helping me get away or I’m trying to protect them from him too. I am currently involved with a new man and I believe the dreams started when I started… Read more »
I keep dreaming of my ex coming back to me and being happy with me, what does that mean?
She has a potential boyfriend but still cries when me and her talk about certain things. She wishes it could be very different.
I dream about an ex friend, who is deceased for several years. These dreams occur either every night for weeks, to once a week, then not at all, then start again. We converse as we did as friends and sometimes argue, or the lying on her part begins. My significant other also appears in theses dreams. I’m going crazy trying to interpret these constant dreams. What do they mean? Why so constant?
I had a dream about my ex. He was trying to get back together with me saying he was ill and wanted to be with me. He was saying sorry gave me a piece of chewing gum to apologise.
My friends in the dream were all trying to convince me to get back together but I ignored them and ran into to back of my mum’s car and she drove me away. Everyone was running after us as they were upset that I wouldn’t get back together with the ex. It was really vivid and quite odd!
I dreamt of my ex husband who I divorced 40 yrs ago and passed away 10 yrs ago. I remarried 23 yrs ago. In my dream I keep pressing my ex as to why he doesn’t love me or show affection toward me anymore. I am all over him sexually. I know that it is my ex’s face and I keep trying to put my current hubby’s face in the dream and it won’t take.
I would need a lot more information to decode. However, if you are trying to put your husbands face on him it seems to be metaphoric in your relationship but remains unconscious to you. Its possible your ex created some emotional trauma for you that projects on your current husband.